“You Are Not Lost In Life – You Are Just Early In The Process”
I just saw this video from Gary Vaynerchuk and it hit me straight in the gut.
The answer to “I feel overwhelmed & I don’t know what to do” from a young guy (LIKE ME) spoke directly to me.
Gary’s Answer: You gotta try stuff. The biggest reason you don’t know what you wanna do is because you haven’t tasted enough things & the biggest reason you are not tasting enough things is you are worried about finding it too fast”
We are all guilty of this and I certainly am fighting with this fear of what if I fail & what should I do?
The key is to take shots, be PATIENT, learn and move forward.
Since high school, I have always wanted to be an athlete & teach fitness to others & I have to some extent done that. That’s why I started my blog, YouTube channel & became a personal trainer.
It’s scary to put this info out there since I know I am always judged but my gut is telling me to do it.
When it comes to my own fitness goals & workouts I have so many options in front of me.
I have tried:
Learning Advanced Calisthenics Skills
Going for high reps on bodyweight exercises (like 20 pull ups)
These different training styles & modalities that I have tried and have shaped the way I train but
I FEEL CAGED & TRAPPED
I wanna get stronger, build muscle, get ripped, learn how to do a handstand on gymnastic rings & deadlift 600 pounds.
Like all of you, I wanna do it all but I have to pick a discipline & get better at it instead of trying to be a jack of all trades & a master of none.
My gut is currently telling me to be a better calisthenics athlete: master the basics & learn the muscle up, handstand, lever & pistol.
Training for these skills is not as easy as do 4 sets of 12 reps. You gotta obsess, be patient & practice the skill daily.
Most importantly you have to let go of your mental fear & overcoming the biggest obstacle in your life: YOURSELF
You are the one limiting yourself from not being able to get these skills done.
Yes we need to learn progressions to these exercises
Yes we need to get stronger in certain positions
Yes we need to learn to breathe when creating tension while on a handstand
All these attributes are necessary to build up your physical strength, balance & control.
But the ultimate battle is to free yourself from fear.
To stop worrying about being scared & failing from a handstand.
To stop thinking you can’t do a hard exercise like a muscle up or handstand when you haven’t even physically tried it.
To stop caging your mind into thinking that you are weak, skinny, fat, heavy, tired, genetically ungifted or [insert other lame excuse you’ve told yourself]
Try a new exercise without much thought & let the fear move to the side.
Don’t be afraid of failure. Be afraid of not knowing whether you can or can’t.
To end this just TRY & gather learning experiences.
Watch Gary’s video & remember that anything you wanna achieve will happen as long as you keep trying and are patient.
That “overwhelmed + lost feeling” of not knowing what to do will little by little start to get clearer & you’ll have greater direction on what you want to do vs just “thinking of what if”
“For the longest I didn’t want to share this. I was afraid, ashamed and horrified about myself but the only thing that will set me free is the truth.”
Those pictures up there are of me.
From 2012 -> 2015 -> 2017 (In August)
I wanna share the story of how I went from skinny to fit to fat with you.
2 years ago (in 2015) I was fit. I had gained muscle from training hard and went from a skinny 140 pound kid to a strong 150 pounds in 2 years.
I was making regular youtube videos, sharing my workouts and all the things I was learning with you guys and that is how you found me.
Life was great back then. I had lots of time to train, create and learn but I wasn’t making a lot of money so I had to find a job.
I quickly got a job and that led into having 2 jobs. This was great and now I had a lot more cash that I could invest into my food, my education and gym memberships.
I joined a powerlifting gym at this point and my strength gains were increasing too fast.
I went from deadlifting 225 to hitting a one rep max of 405 in less than 3 months.
I felt on top of the world. I was making a lot of money and also getting stronger.
During this time some of my friends were really big into craft beer. I had never been into beer before but little by little after hanging out with them I started to really enjoy beer (specially stout and sour beers)
After a few months of hanging out with them I became obsessed with beer. Not because I liked to get drunk or feel buzzed but because there was so many styles of beer out there and I simply wanted to try them all. It was a new art form that I was excited to discover.
Eventually I got to the point where I was going out 3-4 times a week to drink and have fun at festivals and breweries. I had a lot of fun but this new passion destroyed my body.
I was working a lot and after work it was either go to the gym and train or go out with friends and drink. At first it was an easy choice:
I’ll just do it all – Work, go workout and then go out. And that worked out great for the first year.
But eventually the more I went out the less I started to train simply because I felt like S#!t. I was eating junk food all the time, sleeping super late (2:30AM-3AM) and was constantly in a state of drunkness.
Fast forwarding to 2016 I had put on over 10 pounds of fat and had lost a lot of my muscle. I was depressed and felt ashamed.
I once was known for being an energetic guy that all I wanted to do was workout and hang from trees. And now I was a skinny fat guy that was overworked and his definition of fun was going to get a few cold ones with the boys.
I had hit rock bottom.
At the beginning of the year I had made the resolution of training again to get stronger.
During January I moved out with my best friend. We had a cool apartment and I started meal prepping again. I brought my gymnastic rings and kettlebell to train with me.
“I didn’t have a place to hand the rings in the house so I wrapped them around the stairs next to the elevator”
Since I had to pay rent I stopped going out regularly. I was cooking, going to work and when I came back home I was either working out or doing some computer work.
My life was slowly getting back some structure.
Our lease ended in April and I moved back with my parents.
During this time I got lazy again; since I didn’t have to pay rent anymore I could go out and spend money again so I started going to eat a lot of restaurants and trying out crazy fat food like bacon wrapped burritos and ice cream chicken sandwiches.
It was fun discovering fun new foods but again this was wrecking my health and energy levels.
After eating all kinds of Instagram worthy foods I started to feel dissatisfied. The fun that I once had trying new foods got boring and everything tasted the same: Just cool looking grease balls.
After the summer I found some pictures of my old self when I was fit and also some older ones when I was skin and bones. I saw that I had made a huge transformation and started to self reflect on my life.
What was I doing with my life?
I was just consuming and not really contributing much to this world. I taught back when I was making YouTube videos on the regular and that is when I felt the most ALIVE. That is when I was motivating people to take action and change their bodies.
Here I was a once strong guy that had everything going for him and now I am looking in the mirror and my abs are covered by an abundance of constant beer, bacon and donuts.
I felt disgusted into what I had transformed into.
Finally on August 8 I woke up dissatisfied and joined a gym. It had just opened a month ago and the place had all kinds of monkey bars to hang from.
I nervously go there to sign up and start going there almost everyday.
Whitin the first week of training there I meet some guys doing crazy calisthenics movements: 360 Muscle Ups, Levers and Handstands on rings.
I was able to do a muscle up before but these guys were frestyling on the bars and basically flying.
After that training session I felt alive. I wanted to get stronger and I knew that if I wanted to do crazy skills like these guys then I needed to start training with them.
For the past 2 months I’ve been training to get my muscle up and I am able to do them again. But after gaining weight and getting weaker this movement is a lot harder.
I’ve decided to re-start my calisthenics journey and here we are now. I am writing emails to help you guys and making regular YouTube content again.
I feel excited to train and share. I am still not at the level I want to be but I am excited to train everyday.
I will be sending regular emails to help you get stronger based on everything I know and learn.
It’s been a long email and I just wanna say thank you for being subscriber. Thank you for being here for me and reading my story. It was tough to share all this personal information but the truth is what will set us both free.
If you are in a similar situation or needed a kick in the ass to go train then I hope that my story inspires you into action.
I am here for you so feel free to drop a comment and ask m anything.
Can’t wait to see how much progress we make together.
A month ago I joined a gym called Just Go Lift in San Diego, California.
I hadn’t been part of of a gym in about 2 years and I was missing the community and support from others.
I am not gonna lie, I was hesitant to join since I had been training alone for so long so the fear of being judged and seen scared me a little. (I’ve always been an introvert by nature.)
But I joined and the coaches welcomed me with open arms and my thoughts of “I will be judged” were all a lie.
I have had nothing but support here and that is what a good community does: they support each other and grow together.
I have been working on getting my muscle up again and while training here I realized how weak I was and have been working on the basics: Pull ups, dips, planks, L-Sits and any movement to get my body and hands used to hanging again.
2 weeks after joining I meet a few calisthenics guys. Seeing them do muscle ups like nothing and freestyle on the bars made me realize that I can do this.
They gave me advice on how to do the muscle up and what I can improve on.
After 25 min of failing and very encouraging “You can do it” “You got this” words I was able to get 1 muscle up and that is all It took for me to make the mental switch on my mind.
I ended up doing a few muscle ups that night and my whole mindset on training changed from “I am weak & have so much training to do” to “I can do this and I am excited to keep working at it”
Instead of feeling bad for being weak now I am happy because there is so much exciting growth that will keep happening.
All it took for this mental switch was for someone else to believe in me and guide me with their support.
The point I am trying to make with this is that in order to accelerate results you need a foundation (i.e. working on the fundamental exercises)
But if you want to accelerate even faster then you need mental support and that is where joining a community comes in. They will be there to pick you up when you feel worthless and be there to make you remember that you can do anything.
Train not only the physical but also the mental and you will get there faster.
I am not sure what your specific goals are at the moment but I wold advice to get friendly help from someone that can do the skill you wanna do. Whether that be a muscle up or a handstand just ask and you will be surprised by how open others are willing to help.
Enjoy your Labor Day and reply with any questions, I am here to help.
Today is thanksgiving in the U.S. & many of us will pig out until we can’t no more (that might be me too, lol)
…Anyway, this day is about being grateful, so I just wanted to say a big:
Thank You 🙂
Thanks for being a subscriber
Thanks for letting me share my info with you
Thanks for choosing to learn from me
Thanks for following my advice
Thanks for wanting to live a healthier life
Thanks for choosing to be strong
And thanks for choosing to not settle for less.
We can be weak and average like everyone but you choose to improve yourself by building a better body & mind trough working out & eating better.
For that I am thankful & graceful.
*Thankful that I can help you on your journey & grateful that I am able to do so*
When I was in high school I always wanted to be an athlete & help people get stronger & healthier.
I never thought that by writing my emails, blog posts, making videos videos & products I would be able to help hundreds of people.
…and while I am not making a living from doing this (I still have a normal job) – the life I once dreamed of is slowly coming to fruition.
I tell you this because I want you to realize that I love sharing this info with you (would do it, even if I didn’t get paid for it because it fuels my soul) & I am grateful that you guys enjoy & actually put the info to use.
Thanks for being an action taker.
Today might be a day to give thanks, but also take a moment to:
– Be Grateful For You –
Be grateful for:
Getting stronger week by week
Being healthy & alive
Having work and being able to make a living
Having the strength to make decisions that will improve your life
Having the discipline to workout in order to get stronger & build more muscle
Having the courage to do what it takes to get stronger (both inside the gym & outside overcoming hardships)
Take a moment and just think about how much you have grown this year, not only physically but mentally, spiritually, financially & how you are becoming the best version of yourself.
The journey to personal growth never stops, but I am grateful that I can be a small part of it for you.
With that said, enjoy your turkey & thank you for choosing to be strong.
That’s what I said a few nights days ago, when me and some friends went to an upscale sushi place (the type of place that asks you if you have a reservation as you walk in).
I like sushi, but had not tried it with raw fish on top, so I was a little hesitant when I looked at the menu but the kitchen sink sounded really good, so I ordered that plus some crispy rice, because sushi never fills you up.
After cracking some jokes our waitress came back with the sushi.
*Insert sounds of plates lightly hitting the table*
I simply look at my plate with a look of that’s it? & I am glad I got 2 orders (workout problems :/)
The kitchen sink referenced above (it’s the name of the plate)
And Crispy Rice w/ Spicy Tuna
Both of these combined were close to $40
There were pricy, but sometimes you gotta Treat Yo Self!
And am glad I did as the sushi was gooooooood! – the best I’ve tried so far.
– The kitchen sink was tender, sweet, spicy and kept getting more flavorful with every chew.
– The crispy rice started to feel like eating a warm but solid Rice Crispy treat, but as you progressed to munch, the mild spicy tuna hit your mouth walls with a very pleasant combination of subtle flavors – it was delightful!
Needless to say I’ll have to go back & try more sushi 🙂
So how does sushi mix in with working out?
In a literal way it doesn’t, the only thing I can think of is that if you don’t workout you’ll end up looking like a sushi roll, ha!
But my point for describing my sushi experience is not for you to crave sushi (sorry if your mind already wants some)
It is to show you that how when you let go of what you think you should do, very pleasant & powerful results happen.
For example, when you are following your workout routine, are doing a set of 5×5 squats & after the 5th set your mind and body still wants to do more, but you look at your workout routine and it says only 5×5.
What do you do?
A) Move on to the next exercise & neglect your body’s urges to keep squatting
B) Fuck everything else, you are in squat mode & all you are gonna do is keep squatting until you can’t no more.
I would always choose B
If your mind and body wants to do something else don’t ignore these urges – Don’t Hold Yourself Back!
If you were to finish your workout as it is laid out on your plan, then you would feel good afterwards.
But if you listen to your primal urges & keep squatting you might break a PR get an incredible high that will transfer into making your day 10X better.
I could have looked for the cheapest sushi on the menu & probable would have felt OK afterwards, but I decided to not be a cheap ass and get what made my mouth water.
The scenario above happens to me all the time – I am following my workout routine & all of a sudden I get urges to do something else. Sometimes I follow these urges & sometimes I wait till the end of my workout to do something extra.
Even when I am in the kitchen, there is a doorframe pull up bar & as I cook I am looking at it & I have 2 options:
1- Do pull ups now
2- Wait till I do my workout & if I still have more energy do some pull ups afterwards.
If I have the urge to do pull ups, I don’t wait – I just do them!
Because I know if I ignore this feeling & energy I will regret it
Yup, I have not been fully living what I am sharing.
Like many of you I have my ups & down and for the past year, shit has gone down:
I stopped making YouTube videos
I haven’t emailed much
Until recently I haven’t made much strength or muscle gains
And I let work control my life to the point where all I do is work, train, cook, eat & sleep – not entirely the kind of lifestyle I want to live!
When I created Beast Lifestyle, I envisioned it as a movement where we rebel against being normal, where we raise our middle fingers to being weak & don’t let outside forces control our lives.
Is not just about gaining strength and muscle, but about using strength training as a vehicle to strengthen our lives and have the courage to go conquer our dreams – to live our own beast lifestyle!
As we grow up we become more docile due to getting more responsibilities, whether it be bills or taking care of someone else, we add more to our plates in order to survive – to some this crumbles & domesticates us to the point where we live on a highly organized & defined schedule that revolves around working, making money & putting everything else that once mattered aside: fun, fitness, sex, creativity, laughing, passion & a wonder for adventure just to name a few.
We force ourselves to become robots – and whether you like it or not, you choose to be in the situation you currently are. Sure you have had many influences overtime, but ultimately you took the actions that made you be where you currently are.
Today I say, lets rebel & change the shit you don’t like.
I personally am comfortable where I am:
I just moved out.
Don’t have many bills to pay.
Have jobs that pay enough me to live off month by month.
Don’t have any dependents under me.
And I am seeing strength & muscle gains again week by week.
Life looks good on paper, but although this gets me by, it doesn’t fulfill my soul – it doesn’t make me go to sleep excited for the next day to start.
While in high school I envisioned myself, helping many get stronger, running an online business from anywhere in the world & traveling to workout wherever I wanted.
And I Will Achieve This Goal!
We all have a beast inside of us that once it’s out, it will give you the strength, patience & perseverance to conquer your own goals without mercy – I will help you unleash this Beast.
Yesterday I had a moment of self reflectiveness & actualization – I saw how incomplete my life currently is. The passionate kid that just wanted to workout & have fun everyday has been tamed, but to that I say: NO MORE!
Starting this week I will be:
Emailing weekly (maybe even daily)
Making weekly YouTube videos (again maybe even daily)
Publishing more blog posts
Creating more workouts & products to help you reach your goals
Talking and sharing tips that go beyond fitness and health (Finances, ethics, personal development and technology just to name a few)
I will do as much as I can, in order to help you reach your goals – A fire has been lighted up & I will not stop until I help you get stronger.
So to end this I want you to:
Raise Your Middle Finger to Yourself!
Tell your weak self to fuck off, to move on and leave since you will not be the same complacent man or woman no more.
Today we raise up and start to live our own beast lifestyle!
Will you join us or stay living an unfulfilled robotic life?
Listen to the video above & make your choice!
Attack Life & Get Stronger
P.S. Have anything to add or things you want? Drop them in the comments below!
I still remember the first time I decided to do a dumbbell clean & jerk with a 45 pound DB at LA Fitness – feels like it just happened yesterday.
I was doing my typical bodybuilding workout – 4 sets of 12 reps & body part splits – today was shoulder day & I had been consuming training advice from from this bald guy named Zach Even-Esh.
His style of training was unconventional – using tires, rocks, ropes and playgrounds as workout material. It was a little crazy for me back then since I was used to just going to the commercial gym and training there like everyone else. But one of the exercises that Zach kept repeating over and over was overhead presses with rock and dumbbell clean and jerks.
So while at the gym I decided to do a DB clean & jerk & since then I haven’t trained the same. The explosiveness of that movement hooked me & I needed more aggressive training.
Slowly I learned more & more from Zach until my training evolved into being part underground – training with an aggressive attitude & not making excuses.
If you have ever wondered why I train at playgrounds, use sandbags, rocks, playgrounds & love to simply train with anything – it is all because Zach injected me with his Underground Strength DNA ever since I started incorporating his training style.
This week he released his first published book & I am stocked! I just ordered & can’t wait to attack it.
Check out the trailer – it will make you wanna go tear it up!
There are some bonuses you can get if you purchase by tonight, but knowing Zach’s quality of products the bonuses are just extra icing on the cake – the book alone is worth it & I highly recommend you get it.
“Everything you need to know about getting stronger and mentally tough is covered in detail in this book. If you are looking for a shortcut, or don’t have a true desire to work as hard as possible, this book is not for you. This book is all about embracing the effort, doing your best, inspiring everyone around you, and being the consummate leader of your social circle, all while becoming the strongest version of yourself.
This book is loaded with inspirational stories and informational programs that work. Zach’s training methods are intense and his passion is unparalleled; if you want to succeed, this book is for you.”—MATT WICHLINSKI, Strength Coach, WWE Performance Center
Attack Life & Get Stronger
— Luis Carrillo
P.S. If you get the book at anytime, forward me your receipt to beastlifestyle [at] gmail.com & I’ll give you my book: 15 No Excuses Workouts as a bonus.